Men generally do not like to talk about their bedtime issues. While you may be fully aware of the problem, he would rather pretend it’s not happening, largely due to embarrassment. As his lover, you might feel that you would only further embarrass him if you bring up the issue, but not talking about it would only make it worse.
If you suspect that your darling may be suffering from Premature Ejaculation (PE), the first step to managing this issue is to help him acknowledge the condition, and realise that there is help available.
Here’s how you can go about it:
Step 1: Make sure he knows you love him, no matter what
Sure, the bedroom scene might not be spectacular. But do you only love your guy for his performance in the bedroom, or do you accept all of him? In order not to hurt your partner, you need to ensure that he’s fully aware of your affection for him, PE or no PE. How to do this? Well, you know your partner best. Stick with him when he’s at his low points, buy him his favourite chocolates as a surprise, as most importantly, don’t make a big deal out of the problems in the bedroom.
Step 2: Talk to your partner
It might not be something you want to talk about, but PE affects not just your partner, but you too. Since your sexual relationship is at risk, having an honest conversation will really help to identify specific areas which can be improved and worked on with a physician.
However, instead of being blunt about the subject, take it slow. Be sensitive. Contrary to popular belief, men have feelings too! Premature ejaculation is an embarrassing condition for most men, so be discreet, and don’t gossip about it with your friends.
Step 3: Listen
After explaining to your partner how you’re aware that there is an issue, listen without judgment. He could’ve been having this problem for a while, and have dealt with the frustrations for a long time. Lend your loved one a sympathetic ear and show empathy while listening. Try not to judge him when he divulges little details about his sexual habits.
Step 4: Discuss
When discussing this issue, instead of focusing on the problem, talk about the possible solutions. Encourage your partner to seek medical help, as premature ejaculation is a treatable condition. Don’t let this condition rob your needed sexual intimacy or destroy your precious partnership – work with your partner to identify the best treatment option to deal with premature ejaculation.
Step 5: Consult a professional
This is perhaps the most important step. Maybe your man might not want to talk to anyone else about this, but if there is a cure out there, why not search for it? Encourage your partner to meet and work with a trusted doctor to diagnose the condition and identify the best treatment option that will work for the both of you.
Always remember, PE is completely treatable so don’t let this ruin your love life!
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